That which you seek, you already have

It occurs to me that oftentimes, what I seek, is right there in front of me. I keep searching for joy and peace. But, if I stop to think, instead of going around in this treadmill of life and its norms and expectations — I find that I really already have what I seek.

The rush of life’s daily activities sometimes clouds the ability to see, that we indeed do have what we seek and, what we desire.

Slow down. Take inventory, in gratitude, of what you already have. You might be surprised at the wealth of riches you own!

What To Do If You Want To Be Happy.

Some see the word “happy” and immediately cringe on the inside because it sometimes highlights what we desire but what nonetheless, seems so unattainable. But what if “happiness” is a sense of one’s conscious efforts at working on becoming whole… the sense of being solidly human?

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It came from the author of the classic,How To Make Friends And Influence People:

“If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy and inspires your hope.”

Dale Carnegie.

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A positive attitude

How To Stay Positive

Sometimes (okay, often), things do not seem to turn out the way you had planned, no matter how hard you try. Life is not a beautiful fairy tale set in a bright green forest. Regardless of where the stresses come from, it is essential to equip yourself with resources to rise above the negativity and stay positive. Maintaining a positive attitude can help alleviate stress and assist in accomplishing your objectives. When you feel like you have hit a dead end, and start to sense any negativity, stop! Take a deep breath. Here are a few tips on how to remain positive even when you are in challenging situations.

Count your blessings

Regardless how rough things are, if you think about it, you have lots of things to be grateful for. Whether it’s having a job when a lot of people are jobless, having a supportive family, or simply being in a good health. By revisiting everything you have in your life, you can’t hold on to the negativities. You will feel confident, proud and positive. There are countless things in your life that you can be thankful about.

Reward yourself – be thankful for you

When you achieve something, regardless of what it is, pat yourself in the back for the job well done. The list of ways that you can reward yourself is endless. You can reward yourself with new opportunities to explore something new or to learn something new. You can even take your friends out for coffee. A positive attitude can hardly arise if you don’t even feel great about yourself.
Be thankful for who you are. You have made it through a lot. You are a survivor.

Exercise: be active in some way

Another great way to manage stress and remain positive is by exercising on a regular basis. If you don’t exercise, try to find something that you enjoy doing such as swimming, biking, playing golf, playing tennis, or going for a walk. Breathing exercise can also help alleviate stress. Breathing has been proven to help manage stress, and can help a lot in countless situations.

Take time out

If all you think about is work, you can easily be overwhelmed by stress. Be sure to give yourself time off and read a book, listen to music or do whatever it is that you find relaxing. You can also go out with your family and friends. This will help you remain focused and positive when you are on your work station. You will ultimately thank yourself for it.

Thoughts…

Staying positive in a challenging environment comes down to having a good attitude about life. I agree it is rarely “sunshine and roses,” but life is precious. And, anything of value is worth the effort to appreciate and to enjoy. Choose life.

Afraid of Heights — Cristian Mihai

I’ve always been afraid of heights. Just imagining looking down over a ledge at this great abyss was enough to make me dizzy… I have always been afraid of falling. Of failing. Of being rejected, criticized. Of being ridiculed, ignored, despised, laughed at. I’ve always been afraid. Of heights, of spiders and bugs, of dogs, […]

Afraid of Heights — Cristian Mihai

How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Almost all of us have this one common destructive daily habit, that is, to compare ourselves to others. We compare houses, jobs, phones, cars, relationships, money, and social position and so on. What this habit does is creates negativity within us and this may also reflect in our behavior. So what should we do? How can we get rid of this habit of comparing? If this is what you are now thinking, then the three tips given below will surely prove to be of help.Understand that you never will win if you do not stop comparing

Even if you keep repeating this in your mind, and realize this consciously, it will help. Despite whatever you do, how much efforts you put in, how hard you strive, there always has to be someone who is better than you or has more than you.

Of course, you may feel nice if you buy a new smartphone which is better than the one your colleague has. But pretty soon you will find someone who has a phone better than yours. So, understand that comparing is futile

Rather than comparing yourself with others, it will be better if you develop the habit of comparing yourself to your own self. Sit back and think how much you have progressed, how much you have grown, and how close you have reached towards your aims.

This habit will help develop kindness, appreciation, and gratitude towards yourself as you notice how much you have done, and all the hurdles you have crossed. So you will be feeling good about yourself without feeling less of others.

It will be a good idea to make this a habit, say by spending a few minutes every weekend to write down how much you have achieved, how closer you now are to your life goals, what you have learned, etc

Perhaps you never might have even imagined so, but the way you behave with others also has an impact on how you think about yourself. If you have this habit of always criticizing and judging others, chances are bright you will also criticize and judge yourself often, even if unconsciously. So, try to help others and be kinder to them and you automatically will learn to be kinder to yourself.

Just try to focus on the positive things in life, the positives in others, and the positives within yourself. The more you start seeing just the good things in others and in most of all– in yourself

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