What are you meant to do?

What are you meant to do? What am I meant to do? This for me has been a nagging question since I was in my late 20’s (long time ago). I have tried and worked at many careers. I have completed many personality assessments. I have studied in various disciplines. I have traveled and lived in many cities. But I still could not find what my true calling was. Or, so I thought.

Now that I look back on past years, I have noticed one pattern, one thread which has been common to each season in my life. Whenever, I flourished (mentally, physically, emotionally and otherwise), I was involved in writing or in helping others with their writing projects. Whenever I hung up my “pen” and ran after other “career” options, I was not as fulfilled, was less healthy, was not financially sound and, worse yet, was often depressed.

In hindsight, I now understand that the periods of lack in my life were blessings. They were meant to help me to find what I was seeking –the answer to the question: “what am I meant to do with my life?”

Now that I no longer wrestle with the task of writing, I feel free-er and more content than ever. I no longer stress over the pain involved in writing. Because yes, writing is painful. It is not fun to dig into one’s soul and to reveal what was once carefully hidden there and then, broadcast it from the mountain top.

All this to say. If you feel that you have not found what you are meant to do with your life– your gifting, or your niche. Take heart. Your life experiences thus far are a beacon to what you are becoming. And somewhere in the trials and struggles perhaps, is the answer that you seek. All the very best in your pursuit of being you.

Published by Suzette Benjamin

Positive thinker, inspirational, writer, faith

9 thoughts on “What are you meant to do?

  1. So happy you’ve found what you are “meant to be doing.”

    If I may be so bold, I would also encourage you to be open to the possibility that this may change…and that’s okay! Wonderful, even!!! My “meant to be” has changed many, MANY times over the years. (So MANY!) The person I am in my middle-years is interested in different things than my 20-something or 30-something self. I would say that my interests change every 5-7 years, on average. For example, I’ve always enjoyed reading…but my tastes in genres has changed over the years. I wasn’t interested in creating art in my 20’s and 30’s, now I’m dabbling in painting. I thought computer games were a waste of time until recently. Now I LOVE gaming! In fact, I’m learning how to use the software “Twine” to create my own interactive games/stories. NEVER saw that one coming. LOL

    When you are open to new possibilities, it can be pretty scary. There are times where I’ve felt lost. These are also times (usually) when I’ve been too scared to pursue the thing(s) I want to try due to perfectionism/fear of failure.

    Change is scary! It’s not for wimps. Congrats on embracing your writing.
    Take care!

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    1. Thank you Juli. I appreciate your wisdom and excellent insight. Yes, I will stay open to possibilities and change. It is exciting indeed and scary too. But, therein lies the adventure called life.

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  2. We all have a purpose on this Earth. And a lot of the times, you will never realize how much good you do for the people around you. I think it even has a name, The Butterfly Effect. You can, have, and will make the earth a better place! Keep posting, and follow your heart Suzette!! 🙂

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  3. Suzette, this post really resonated with me. I spent years chasing one thing or another in search of my true purpose or calling. This endless pursuit left me feeling empty and hopeless. I thought finding the “answer” would give me peace but I was so afraid of choosing wrong that I never let myself commit to any one thing. Once I stepped back and took stock of my past experiences I, too, noticed a common thread. This time, instead of shying away from my instincts I am allowing myself to trust them. I feel a lot of resistance when I do this because I’m not yet used to allowing myself to follow my gut, but I’ve decided to keep taking action in this area even when it’s uncomfortable. The greatest challenge for me is keeping the mental chatter at bay while I practice this new skill. When I listen to the mental chatter, I question everything I’m doing and actively look for evidence that I’m on the wrong path. But I heard on a podcast that this is when you have to remind yourself that nothing’s gone wrong, and that the ups and downs are part of the journey. I recently asked this life coach what she did to quiet her self-doubt. She said, “I talk to myself more than I listen to myself,” meaning she reframes destructive, negative thoughts into more affirming thoughts that actually serve her and then actively practices believing the new thoughts. This is the work I’m doing right now. Thank you so much for this post. It’s nice to know there are others on similar journeys, even later in life.

    Wishing you all the best,


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